But often, they don’t realise that in the bargain, they are raising a “hurried child” — a term proposed by child psychologist Dr David Elkind, in his. “The Hurried Child,” by David Elkind’s, expresses the different ways that children are forced to grow up too quickly in society. Elkind states that. With the first edition of The Hurried Child, David Elkind emerged as the voice of parenting reason, calling our attention to the crippling effects of.

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David Elkind eloquently called our attention to the dangers of exposing our children to overwhelming pressures, pressures that can lead to a wide range of childhood and teenage crises. Internationally recognized as the voice of reason and compassion, Dr. Elkind showed that hurgied blurring the boundaries of what is age appr. Elkind showed that in blurring the boundaries of what is age appropriate, by expecting-or imposing-too much too elkidn, we force our kids to grow up far too fast.

In the two decades since this groundbreaking book first appeared, we have compounded the problem, inadvertently stepping up the assault on childhood in the media, in jurried, and at home. Taking a detailed, up-to-the-minute look at the world of today’s children dwvid teens in terms of the Internet, classroom culture, school violence, movies, television, and a growing societal incivility, Dr. Elkind shows a whole new generation of parents where hurrying occurs and why and what we can do about it.

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Lists with This Book. Dec 30, Diane rated it it was amazing. I read this book when it was first chil and read it again when this updated version was published. The point of the book is how we hurry our children into adulthood and this topic is one that should really be explored more in schools and in the media.

The Hurried Child, 25th anniversary edition : David Elkind :

Children need to be children and this book should be a must read for all parents and school districts. Nov 20, Adriane Devries rated it it was amazing Shelves: Though much Hurrying can be defended as an earnest effort by parents to ensure a good future David Elkind, Ph.

Though much Hurrying can be defended as an earnest effort by parents to ensure a good future for a child—good grades to get into college, sports achievement to win a scholarship, etc. When children feel treated as an object to be controlled, rather than as human with feelings, dignity and a right to opinion, they translate this as rejection by those who have the most power to hurt or nurture them. Especially once they reach adolescence and can articulate these feelings of manipulation, they may retaliate by underperforming or lashing out.

Modern schooling further hurries children by elkijd them all into conformist, academic roles for the purpose of grade-getting, teacher job retention and school funding. Kids know they are pawns in a system that only cares for what they can produce.

Unmanageable class size, with limited ability to protect students from violence in unsupervised settings or to teach them according to learning styles or aptitudes, long school days with few tangible rewards, as well as constant hruried and distractions, create increasingly higher hoops children must jump through in order to appease those in authority over them.


In addition, visual media versus books that can be put down in order to process content deluge children with an overwhelming amount of images and concepts that they are developmentally too immature to process. As a result, children suffer information overload, fears and gross factual misunderstanding.

The harmful effects of Hurrying can be mitigated by thoughtful teachers and parents. Hurrying is basically undue stress for children, and the effects are often the opposite of the intended purposes of childhood activity.

May 06, Dianna Caley rated it liked it. Extremely negative about working mothers and single mothers.

The Hurried Child: Growing Up Too Fast Too Soon by David Elkind

The author had some good things to say, but it was hard to get past his clearly biased anecdotal rants against homes that did not resemble the Donna reed show. May 30, Solady Batterjee rated it chikd was amazing. I can’t say that I am with or against the ideas of this book, the thing that I would like to share is that I beleive that parents davjd have an inner scale to when and how much should they encaurage their children and when to stop.

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. Like Superman, Superkid has spectacular powers and precocious competence even as an infant. This allows us to think that we can hurry the little powerhouse with impunity.

The conception of children as competent to deal with, and indeed as benefiting from, everything and anything that life has to offer was an effective rationalization for parents who continue to love their children but who have neither t “Our new conception of children and youth is epitomized in the metaphor of the Superkid.

The conception of children as competent to deal with, and davjd as benefiting from, everything and anything that life has to offer was an effective rationalization for parents who continue to love their children but who have neither the time, nor the energy, for childhood. Our contemporary conception of Superkid, then.

Not everyone will share Elkind’s opinions about childhood, but Hurriev certainly do. I appreciate seeing even the small ways we can hurry our children and rob them of their childhood, so that I can avoid making those mistakes.

I plan to regularly revisit this book as my children grow to reexamine how I can help them become healthy, happy adults through each stage of their development.

The Hurried Child: Growing Up Too Fast Too Soon

Elkind makes a lot of really strong points here. The last chapter draws a lot of extremely conservative conclusions with which I would not care to be associated, and this is why the final star is denied.

However, in this day and age in which kids in fifth grade come home and announce they have a boyfriend, in which teensy children are packed off to beauty contests carefully coiffed, manicured, and covered in cosmetics, this is a breath of healthy, let’s-get-real common sense. If you are a parent who is not sure what children should do as cbild move past early childhood, or if you have questions about adolescents, this is a good read. Sadly, the people who should most read this book probably won’t, and those who are already doing a pretty decent job probably will.

I read this book for one of my developmental classes and I love it. Every parent or will be parent should read this. It talks about how we as Americans are trying to get our children to grow elkiind too fast and the consequences we as a nation are facing. Over scheduling and the pressure to do better than everyone else are just some of the topics discussed.


I didn’t think I would enjoy it but once I opened the cover, it was hard to stop. Dec 01, Roger Voth rated it really liked it. Please, don’t use your children to fulfill your own wishes. Be their leader, their confidant, their best cheer-leader, and the one who loves them deeply from the heart. Teach all you can, challenge them to take responsibility, and realize that they are a unique beautiful person with the possibility of great things wrapped up in fragile paper.

They are a gift you are given to care for, not a possession or resource that you can use. May 15, Marianne Mullen rated it really liked it Shelves: Great book for explaining why childhood needs to be preserved and why we need to stop rushing children to grow up so fast. It’s a bit outdated but the overall message is powerful. It took me forever to read this but I’m glad I did.

Apr 24, Lacey rated it liked it. I read this book for my middle childhood class. It was a huge eye opener about how parents are hurrying their children to grow up and expecting to much of them I would reccomend this book for anyone who has young children. Mar 29, Corbin rated it did not like it Shelves: Rife with sublimated sexism; ignores issues of race, class, and culture; ageist; severe backlash against gifted acceleration programs; condones censorship; completely ignores issues of asynchronous development.

Mar 18, Stacy rated it really liked it Recommends it for: Although dated and written mostly to parents. I appreciated the celebration of childhood Cavid shared. I’d like to continue my readings on this topic. May 22, Aayaam is currently reading it Shelves: Gave up on this because it was a bit vivid for my taste. If you can deal with a work that elkid close to home, I recommend it to you. Continuing it after newfound motivation.


Feb 28, Audrey rated it really liked it. Insightful, and the trend has not reversed. May 02, Shana rated it liked it Shelves: I read an earlier edition c. I’d like to get my hands on the edition sometime. I would imagine he made many updates, as the hurrying has only gotten worse More of a documentary for a school project, but a definite great read. Something most can hurrried with. David Elkind’s overall premise is that our society forces children to grow up to fast in many, many different ways.

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He calls this hurrying. Basically, all hurrying leads to stress, and that stress has many different ways it can affect a child. The bulk of the book discusses how different aspects hurrried family life and culture create these hurried situations and how children respond. Very little time is spend on how to work against hurrying in comparison to the length of the book. One of my biggest pr David Elkind’s overall premise is that our society forces children to grow up to fast in many, many different ways.

One elkinf my biggest problems with The Hurried Child was that it didn’t seem fully revised. There was dated researchbut at least the information on research gave dates.